When Should a Parent Let Their Kid Quit?

Parents regularly seek out my advice on how to handle a truly complex and sometimes serious issue; when should they let their student quit? The American culture of “dig in” and “stick with it” can leave parents fighting an intense battle with their child about work ethic and commitment. What happens when the child hasContinue reading “When Should a Parent Let Their Kid Quit?”

What Are the Best Strategies to Keep You From Burning Out?

If you’re one of the helpers out there who constantly cares for others before caring for yourself, you know you have to stop or you will burn out.  Despite the fact that we have all been trained in the importance of self-care, we get caught up in the craziness of our work and forget (literallyContinue reading “What Are the Best Strategies to Keep You From Burning Out?”

Do Social and Emotional Programs Really Work?

If you’ve been in the school counseling field for any length of time, you know the importance of social and emotional development. You understand that a kid who is flipping a desk cannot possibility learn math in that moment and those executive functioning skills must be taught first. But how can only one person, theContinue reading “Do Social and Emotional Programs Really Work?”

When You Feel Paralyzed by Fear

You’ll hear time and again from successful people that if they’d comprehended how truly unprepared they were for the journeys they were attempting, the fear would’ve paralyzed them and they’d have never been brave enough to begin. “I did have one element necessary to all early creativity; naïveté, that fabulous quality that keeps you fromContinue reading “When You Feel Paralyzed by Fear”

Are You Busy Or Just Unfocused? How to Regain Control

This saucy, (but accurate) quote from Tim Ferriss keeps bouncing around in my head as I sit here working to prioritize my goals for the next few months, “Being busy is a form of laziness–lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.  Being busy is most often used as a guise for avoiding the few critically important butContinue reading “Are You Busy Or Just Unfocused? How to Regain Control”

Wondering If What You do Matters? This Pep Talk Is For You

THE PROBLEMS OF THE WORLD SEEM BIG…REALLY BIG If we consider all that’s wrong with the world and all the work we have to do to get our students where they need to be in order to become functional members of society, we will become overwhelmed at the gargantuan task before us. There are momentsContinue reading “Wondering If What You do Matters? This Pep Talk Is For You”

This Trick Can Help You Reach All of Your Students Every Single Day

If your goal is to impact an entire school, which it is, then you need to use layers of support and connection.  On a good day, a school counselor might be able to individually meet with 15 to 20 kids, but in a school of 800 students, that would be leaving 780 kids without accessContinue reading “This Trick Can Help You Reach All of Your Students Every Single Day”