Meet The Feelings Lady, Elishia Basner.

Elishia Basner, M.S., is a school counselor, writer, speaker and parenting coach. She has taught people of all ages and backgrounds the principles and practices of emotional healing for 13 years. Elishia helps people develop attitudes, behaviors, and habits that promote a life full of growth and self-discovery. 

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They didn’t give you a parenting manual, but that doesn’t mean you are alone.

Doing it on your own is fine until it isn’t. Sometimes, you need an in-depth conversation to gain clarity, set boundaries, or identify a path forward. My job is to provide a safe and healing space for parents to discover the path that’s right for them. Needing help doesn’t mean you are a “bad parent.” Parenting is really hard sometimes. It’s okay to need help.

My job is to connect with the parent behind the scenes, so that you become the hero of the story.

We often don’t know what we don’t know. When your first child is in high school and you’ve never navigated the intricate system of applying for college–it’s good to have someone who knows the ropes on your side. When your youngest has a meltdown each time you ask him to put on his clothes–it’s okay not to know what to do. I’ve worked with preschool-aged children through college-aged and know that sometimes you just need a little extra help.

If you have a challenge related to a child with tantrums, defiance, screen use, attention, college preparedness, or any other specific problems related to parenting, I’d love to help customize a plan that helps you deepen your connection with your child and eases the struggle of parenting.


Are you ready to get out of your own way and live the life of your dreams?

Are you stuck? Feeling hopeless, frustrated, and ready to move on to that next step in your life, but you have no idea what that next step is or where to begin? This journal will walk you through more than one hundred thought-provoking questions to help you sift through the noise to create an abundant and happy life.  

Find your best self with questions designed to help you:

  • Bring awareness to your self-defeating thoughts―Learn what thought patterns and habits have been holding you back. 
  • Shift your perspective―Learn reflective skills that give you a deeper insight into your own mind. 
  • Map out your desired life―Stop just going through the motions and deliberately design the life you’ve always dreamt of living. 

With this 5-minute journal, you can finally learn how to get out of your own way and live the life of your dreams.  

Book for Teens

Help your teen learn the life skills that will help them live a happy and successful life.

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In Grown, you’ll explore such profound questions as: Can you learn to control your emotions? What makes a good friendship? What do you do if you feel unsafe? What do you do when you worry too much? What happens if you fail?

The author has spent her career teaching people how to get out of their own way and find their best selves. Told in language we all can understand, Grown will reshape how you think about success and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your life. 

Small Group Curriculum

Friendship Group Curriculum

This friendship skills small group counseling program is designed for elementary-aged and middle school-aged students. Students are introduced to concepts of communication, healthy choices, personal boundaries, coping strategies, and self-expression. These activities can be used for small group counseling, individual counseling, or school counseling classroom lessons. What’s included (76 Pages): Teacher nomination form Parental consent form (2 versions) Pre- and post-screening tool Group rules 5 group session lesson plans (objectives, outline, materials list, ASCA standards alignment) All accompanying handouts Counselor hall passes **Allow up to 48 hours to receive your order.